Ft. Lauderdale, FL- When most couples marry, they intend it to last. They believe their relationship with their spouse is solid, and the love they have will be lifelong. But as we know not every marriage is strong enough to stand the test of time and divorce is unavoidable. Along with the dealing with the legal aspects of their divorce, a couple will also have to learn how to cope with the demise of their relationship.
Don’t Ignore the Grieving Process
Divorce brings up in people a host of emotions; loneliness, depression, guilt, anger, fear and frustration. A spouse may feel like a failure because they were unable to make a marriage work. A person is now faced with the prospect of being single, and they must adjust to a significant lifestyle changes. Being able to secure an agreeable divorce settlement won’t alleviate the grief that accompanies the breakup of a marriage.
Grief is a common in divorce and it’s a natural human reaction to losing someone we care about deeply. Grief evokes a series of emotions that a person experiences as they move through the grieving process. There are five stages of grief that every human goes through when they face a major of loss. According to Psych Central those stages are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
No two people grieve in the same way, they may move back and forth between each stage of grief and they do so on their own time. It’s important to feel every raw emotion that arises as you grieve the loss of your marriage. Fighting grief is counterproductive and can actually delay the process. It’s best to allow yourself to cry when you need to. Over time, the grief you feel will become less and less a part of your daily life and you’ll emerge from the process in better emotional state.
Look to Others for Support
As with any, loss, when you are going through a divorce it’s important to have a strong support system. Talking with others about the emotions you are feeling will alleviate some of the suffering you are going through. If you can turn to friends and family members during this troubling time, do so. They may have their own experiences andcan offer you sound advice on how to cope.
For many people going through divorce, therapy is a good way to talk about their emotions. You may feel better about talking to a neutral third party about the emotions you are going through. A therapist or psychologist can give you the tools and skills to deal with the stress, anger and depression that accompanies your divorce.
There are also support divorce groups, you can seek out. These groups give you a chance to discuss the emotions you are feeling with others who are going through the same thing you are.
While you work on coping with your divorce emotionally, you can turn to a divorce attorney to help you handle the pragmatic, legal aspects of divorce. This will give you the freedom to reconcile your emotions and give you e better chance of getting a fair settlement.