New York, NY- Given that the divorce rate in the Western World is high with the U.S. and the U.K. ranking number one and four respectively, many researchers exhaustively examine the reasons why marriages fail. Previous studies have tied drinking; the relationship a person has with their in-laws, infidelity, age differences and religion to divorce rates.
And now a study from the U.K. shows that social media or more precisely how couples communicate through those channels, could make them dissatisfied with their marriage.
Researchers from the Oxford University monitored the social media habits of 3,500 couples including their emails, text messages, Facebook accounts and post in other popular social sharing sites. And despite the fact that communication is one of the keys to a successful a marriage, social media may be simply too much or the wrong kind of communication.
Couples who communicated with each other on five or more social media platforms showed a 14 percent decrease in the satisfaction of their marriages.
One of the researchers, Dr. Bernie Hogan of Oxford University explained to the Daily Mail that the disharmony may be caused by the stress and time it takes to maintain their posts through the various social media platforms.
Dr. Hogan said, “Using these media is great in moderation. But more is not necessarily better. We need to walk back from the idea that more communication by more media is a good thing.” He added, “It’s important to be accessible without being overbearing.”
But it isn’t just an overbearing spouse that can cause a rift in a marriage, a recent study from the University of Michigan found that the relationship between a couple and their in-laws can have an impact of the solidity of a marriage.
The findings indicated that men who have a good relationship with their in-laws had a 20 percent less chance their marriage would end in divorce. But for women the reverse is true.
Women who had a good relationship with their in-laws were 20 percent more likely to divorce their spouse. That is primarily because women identify strongly with their roles as a mother and a wife and good relationship with their in-laws can lead to meddling or interference in how they do things. This can caused resentment that can drive a wedge between a woman and her spouse.
Lead researcher and psychology professor at the University of Michigan, Terri Orbuch explained that while it’s important for parents to have a good relationship with their daughter-in-law, she warned parents to avoid being overbearing or butting too much into their daughter in-laws affairs.
There are a myriad of reasons marriages fail, but these studies help us figure out steps we can take to make certain we have strong relationships that last. And these studies actually might be helping.
According to data from the most recent Census, the U.S. divorce rate declined from 50 percent to 44 percent in 2011. Additionally, couples who have children were less likely to divorce than their childless counterparts.