Here’s something you don’t hear every day: Sharing is NOT caring, or so a new study wants us to believe. The study says sharing – at least sharing housework – may actually contribute to divorce.
According to the Norwegian study, couples who share housework duties have a higher risk of divorce than couples where the woman actually most of the chores. The divorce rate for couples sharing housework was about 50 percent higher than for households where the woman did most of the work.
“The more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate,” said Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study titled “Equality in the Home.”
But you men uniting around the world right now, don’t rejoice just yet. The researchers found insignificant cause and effect evidence and based their results merely on “modern” attitudes.
“Maybe it’s sometimes seen as a good thing to have very clear roles with lots of clarity … where one person is not stepping on the other’s toes,” said Hansen, who views marriage as ‘sacred’ and appears to have a disdain for 21st century progressive thinking. “There could be less quarrels, since you can easily get into squabbles if both have the same roles and one has the feeling that the other is not pulling his or her own weight.”
Hansen also said that since these “modern” women are more educated, they can probably afford the costs of a divorce – like their own divorce lawyer – better as well.
By now you may be thinking that Norway has a very backwards mentality, especially regarding gender roles. However, the country actually has long-standing tradition of gender equality, especially when it comes to parenting. It’s in the housework where they believe the woman belongs in the kitchen, or Laundromat, or on her knees scrubbing the floor.
Don’t feel too bad for the women though, they seem to like it! The study also pointed out that those women who did the brunt of the housework were actually satisfied and happier than the women living in these so called “modern” households.