Ft. Meyers, FL- Summer has begun, which means we’ve hit peak wedding season, and all across the country couples are having lavish ceremonies. Your wedding day is supposed to be a special day and some couples mistakenly think the only way to make the day special is to have a lavish and costly ceremony. Soon-to-be brides are inundated with images of plush wedding décor, flowers and dresses and somehow have this impression that an over-the-top ceremony and reception is what they need, that it somehow will give their marriage longevity.
It’s a great idea if you have enough money to thrown down tens of thousands on an extravagant wedding, but a well-planned and expensive wedding doesn’t guarantee you won’t be heading towards divorce in the near or distant funeral. Between paying for the venue, the catering, flowers, the wedding cake and dresses and tuxedos, a couple can spend a pretty penny on their wedding. According The Knot, a website that caters to wedding planning, the average American couple spends between $28,000 and $40,000 on their wedding alone.
Getting that much money for a wedding may be a heavy lift for some couples. The tradition of the bride’s family paying for a wedding is no longer a hard and fast rule. Both sets of parents often contribute to the wedding fund, helping a couple make up the difference. Couples will charge up their credit card and take out loans just to pay for their ceremony. This means many couples enter their marriage already in debt with strained finances.
Amanda McAlister, a respected divorce attorney in the U.K. told the Daily Mail that eight in ten couples who decide to divorce within five years of their wedding say spending too much on their wedding is why they are seeking dissolution.
That makes since finances and fights over them are one of primary drivers of divorce. A 2012 study from the University of Kansas found that couples, who argued about money early in their marriage were more likely to divorce. Researchers believe fights over debts and how money is spent are more frequent and more intense than other marital disagreements, causing discord and mistrust to take over a marriage. With no trusts over finances, a couple may be doomed to failure.
Whether you get married at the courthouse or in an elaborate ceremony, you need to understand the role money will play in your marriage and how much it will affect your future relationship. Pushing for an expensive wedding and going into debt isn’t a necessarily a fortuitous start to your marriage, and could give your spouse the perception that the ceremony is more important than the marriage itself.
If you can afford a costly wedding then by all means have one, but make certain your spouse is on board. Otherwise dissatisfaction could set in early on and you might soon find yourself in a divorce attorney’s office fighting over who gets to keep the wedding album.