Rivky Stein, 24, with the help of friends and family, developed a Facebook page, where she discusses the alleged physical and sexual abuse her estranged husband Yoel Weiss, 32, subjected her to in their brief marriage. Stein alleges
The “Redeem Rivky: Demand that Yoel Weiss Give his Wife a Get” page already had over 5,000 likes as of Tuesday. Another web community, RedeemRicky.com, claims Stein is broke and in danger of losing her house and so far has collected nearly $16,000 in donations, CBS New York reported.
“I want my get very badly,” Stein told the New York Daily News. “But this is not just about me. It’s about fixing the problem so it doesn’t happen to anyone else.”
Weiss told CBS New York, the allegations of abuse from his estranged wife are bogus, stating that the charges she has filed against him have been dropped. He said he tried granted Stein a get two years ago but she rejected his offers. He claims Stein is just using the publicity to make him look bad so she can attain more money and full custody of their two children.
According to the Daily News, Weiss said he would grant his wife a get as soon as they come to a decision in their child custody battle.
In the Orthodox Jewish community, getting a divorce is not as simple as hiring a divorce attorney and singing in the dotted line. In many cases, couples in the Orthodox community don’t actually obtain civil marriage licenses, but use a document called a “ketubah,” which is recognized by family courts. A couple is still married in the eyes of the community and a woman is forbidden from having a relationship with or marrying another man until a get is granted.
Rabbis say the get can be abused to extort an estranged spouse or use it as leverage to ensure all of their demands are met in divorce.
This is one of a few stories centered on the difficulties women face when trying to divorce in the Orthodox Jewish community. Last month, a New Jersey Rabbi pleaded guilty to charges that he kidnapped and tortured a New York man for several hours in order to convince him to grant his wife a get. The rabbi also threatened to shoot the unidentified man in the head if he didn’t sign the necessary documents.
The rabbi and his accomplices were arrested and their cases are currently working their way through federal court. These two incidents show the lengths people got to in order to get divorce in the Orthodox Jewish community.
It can be challenging, regardless of a couple’s religious beliefs can be difficult to come to terms in the midst of a combative divorce. While a divorce attorney can’t make a couple put aside their differences, they can advise them on what is possible and help a couple come up with a compromise.