Finding out that your partner of many years wants to get a divorce isn’t an easy pill to swallow. The fact is, you’ve probably dedicated a significant amount of your life to them and now they are ready to move on and leave all you have built together behind. While you are probably feeling outraged, disappointed, and even saddened which has probably made it difficult to discuss any of the matters that must be addressed, there is a way for the two of you make certain decisions that will allow your divorce to be finalized, giving you an opportunity to move forward with your life. It’s called mediation.
Mediation is “a way for people who are having a dispute to talk about their issues and concerns and to make decisions about the dispute with the help of another person (called a mediator)” [Source: Florida Courts]. If you’re wondering what types of issues might be discussed during mediation, below we have provided a list of some of the common things couples talk about during this group meeting.
- Child support
- Child custody
- Spousal support, often referred to as alimony
- Division of assets
The reason many couples often turn to mediation is because once a divorce is initiated, one or both of the parties involved may develop strong feelings of anger and frustration, all of which contribute to starting heated arguments. And rather than come to an agreement on what will happen to the property you acquired or how your savings is going to divided, the two of you might spend your time together arguing about who is to blame for the divorce, etc. And rather than going back and forth with your spouse or leave things unsettled, you could turn to a mediator who can help you settle your differences and allow you to move forward.
What are some of the other benefits of mediation?
- During mediation, you are given the “opportunity to talk with someone who is impartial.” Given the neutral role the mediator plays, it makes it easier to hear their input and suggestions as they aren’t going to take one side over the other, which is not something anyone wants to have to deal with when going through a divorce.
- What is said in mediation is kept confidential. Divorces are private matters and they should be kept as that.
- Mediation can help you save money on legal fees. Rather than incur court costs to resolve your issues before a judge, you could address them during mediation which many find to be much more affordable.
- The issues that exist between you and your spouse are not decided on by someone else unlike how they would be if your case was handled in court. When a couple allows their case to go to court and they are unable to come to terms on a matter such as custody or the division of marital property, a judge will be responsible for making the ultimate decision on the matter.
- Mediation agreements are enforceable. Any agreements you and your spouse reach during mediation are enforceable which means you likely won’t have to revisit the issue again in court unless it is to confirm your decision.
[Source: Florida Courts].
Now, if you are interested in learning more about mediation to determine if it right for you or you are seeking assistance from a certified family law mediator in Orlando, FL, the FL divorce attorneys at The Aikin Family Law Group are qualified to help you. To get an initial consultation scheduled so that you are able to get the help you need, you can contact this firm now at 407-644-4040.
The Aikin Family Law Group is located at:
2180 Park Avenue North, Building 100
Winter Park, Florida 32789