BROOKLYN, New York. If you are considering divorce, you may be going back and forth about whether to move forward or to try to work it out with your partner. Making big decisions can be tough. How can you decide?

Before deciding to divorce, it is often wise to take the time to consider the consequences. For example, divorcing your partner will result in serious financial ramifications, especially if you have to split your home, assets, and retirement. While you shouldn’t remain in a marriage solely for financial reasons, it is important to consider the consequences of divorce. If you have children, you and your ex will need to consider child custody agreements. It might be wise to consider how you will feel spending weeks or weekends away from your children. After considering the consequences of divorce, then you may want to take time to consider the issues in your marriage that are leading you to consider divorce. Many couples try counseling before filing divorce paperwork. Counseling can be helpful even if you do choose to divorce, because it can help you and your partner work out your differences and anger before you bring in courts, finances, and legal concerns.

Even after taking all these factors into consideration, many individuals suffer from a phenomenon known as the fear of better options. The New York Times reports that one of the challenges of making a tough decision is our concern that we might be missing out on something better. Do you really think there’s a better partner for you out there? However, researchers have found that often, by trying to find the best option, the best partner, the best marriage, we sometimes miss out on the good that is right there before us. Or, we may come to devalue the choice we have made. Before signing divorce paperwork or asking for a divorce, you may want to take the time to consider the good in your marriage. What works? There are some aspects of your marriage that simply won’t be able to be replaced.

However, there are certain situations where divorce is the best option. If you are in an abusive marriage or relationship, if your partner doesn’t respect you, or rejects you, you may be headed toward divorce. According to Woman’s Day, other signs of divorce include: an affair in which your straying partner keeps his or her former lover as a friend, or a partner who refuses to compromise. If your partner has cheated on your repeatedly, or if you’ve stopped communicating, this could also be a sign that your marriage is in trouble.

If you are thinking about getting divorced, it is important to plan ahead. This means having a qualified team on your side. The Elliot Green Law Offices are divorce attorneys in Brooklyn, New York who can help you ask some of the tough questions divorce raises.  Our firm can help you navigate the challenging process of dividing assets and debts, and making child custody decisions. You don’t have to navigate this process alone. Visit us at to learn more.


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