Actor Terrence Howard, a 2005 Oscar nominee for “Hustle & Flow” is reportedly trying to overturn the 2012 divorce settlement with his ex-wife Michelle Ghent, according to his divorce attorney. As reported by ABC News, the actor had earlier agreed to a settlement following threats from his ex-wife to reveal details about his sex life.

Howard’s attorney played an audio tape of a telephone conversation back in 2011 when Ghent said she would reveal all if he did not pay up and said she would bury him deep within the ground. She claimed to have video footage of Howard naked in the bathroom, threatened to call the IRS about improper deductions (that is why we need a flat tax according to many people), and reveal the truth about alleged affairs.

Howard has now argued that statements made by Ghent were nothing but extortion and has appealed for the divorce settlement to be overturned. On the other hand, Ghent’s attorneys say their client denies all allegations and has accused Howard of domestic violence. The couple were married in 2010 although Ghent went ahead and filed for divorce a year later.

How to choose a divorce attorney – key factors

They say all good things come to an end. However, in the case of marriages, half of them come to an end according to a report proposed by the American Psychological Association. The report establishes that nearly 40 to 50% of American marriages end in divorce. The cliché – “it’s a fine line between love and hate” really starts to make sense when one starts to realize the findings of this report.

Divorce is not a tragedy – the real tragedy is staying in an unhappy marriage

Needless to say, divorces are an extremely stressful event. There are a lot of things at stake, some of which may be very near and dear to you. These include your house(s), car(s), money, assets, and most crucially, your children.  Adding to the already mounting pile of problems is the fact that it is not a simple procedure to get divorced in America especially if it is a contested divorce. During such times, when your stress levels are already through the roof and emotions have hit rock bottom, it is nearly impossible to handle the legal proceedings by yourself.

This is when a divorce attorney comes into play. Not only that, a divorce attorney will prove to be extremely handy especially if your spouse and you are unable to agree on the terms of the divorce. A sound lawyer may just be the reason you get to see your kids as often as you’d like, the reason you get to keep the house you worked all your life to buy, etc.

But, and there is a BIG but here, if you choose an attorney that you are incompatible with, you would have only compounded your problems instead of having alleviated them. It cannot be stressed enough as to how important it is to hire a golden divorce attorney. In fact, if there is only one decision you need to get right throughout your entire divorce, it is the one you make while appointing your attorney.

To give you some basic guidelines and things to keep in mind while hiring a divorce attorney, here are some pointers that could be of help.

Three things to look for when hiring your attorney

The first thing you need to consider is the amount of experience the attorney has under his or her belt. Experience is everything, practice makes perfect, and perfecting the law takes a lot of practice. Make sure your attorney has a few years of experience with divorce cases.

Next are client testimonials, which are a magnificent way to get the low down on your attorney or in other words, find out more about them. You have the Internet on your side. Please use it for some research, read up on everything you can about your attorney before hiring him or her. Look out for red flags in the testimonials. But you really do not have to do any of these if you use the site since every attorney on this site is above board.

Thirdly, make sure you are able to connect with the attorney on some sort of personal level. This is much more important than it seems. An attorney will end up being your best friend and pillar of support during an otherwise miserable divorce and time in your life.